tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8607494518122473059.post7620436595595576973..comments2024-03-13T03:40:44.663-07:00Comments on Marriage Sucks: CombinationsAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10716615984203628147noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8607494518122473059.post-29526457716335148082015-08-09T18:14:39.850-07:002015-08-09T18:14:39.850-07:00Thanks a lot for your kind words; if marriage has ...Thanks a lot for your kind words; if marriage has given me anything, it's long periods of time where I have nothing of importance or interest to do, so I figured I might as well ponder how to break down marriage as best I could to share my experiences with others.<br /><br />Regarding comments and logic, this one was a definite work in progress. I've watched countless Youtube videos where people are debating such and such topic, read comments on articles all over the web and spent more than enough time around illogical people in real life to notice the same six fallacies coming up again and again. Though, I think pointing out these fallacies hasn't been as effective a shield against my writing as I thought it would; people still left comments violating the six rules, even comments where I provided an example that the person used word for word. Oh well.<br /><br />Glad to hear that you've found good in your marriage. The irony seems to be that I have a wife who's quite a money-sucking anchor and who used to have horrendous mood shifts, but my son was the only good part. On the other hand, you seem to be in the opposite position.<br /><br />I hope some of my writing is able to provide some advice for your situation, though I understand if it doesn't apply. My wife used to be an enabler of her mother's bad behavior and that's why she ran roughshod over everybody else, but when I took the lead of our marriage again, my wife took her mother to task and we found peace again.<br /><br />I don't know if your wife disciplines her son when she must (and please forgive any false assumptions, I'm not trying to be condescending or insulting), but if she doesn't, I would encourage both of you to set boundaries for him and threaten punishment if he doesn't follow. My brother used to act this way and my parents never said anything to him, and the behavior only got better when he moved out to join the military.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10716615984203628147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8607494518122473059.post-39679943140633135222015-08-08T09:04:00.175-07:002015-08-08T09:04:00.175-07:00John Q.,
I have just come across your blog by foll...John Q.,<br />I have just come across your blog by following someone else's blogroll. Just skimming around here, I see that you are a deep thinker on this subject of marriage. (I'm married 6 years now.) I truly appreciate your rundown of how NOT to leave comments on your blog, and your explanations of false reasoning, straw men, and the like. A very good explanation of logic and reasoning in and of itself. Some of your analysis of relationships (such as the bully/anchor, etc.) also has a wider application. I have a stepson who is a bully and his mother is supportive and I alternately intervene and sometimes just stand back and let it go on, depending on what degree my wife is willing to consider my advice to get out from under his harassment of her.<br /><br />I had been single a very long time. For me marriage has brought me many contacts and opportunities through my wife and because of her, I was able to leave a soul-killing job. I mean, I could have left it anyway and gotten a similiar job, perhaps for employers who were not ogres, but I am talking about a complete change of industry. The only really great negative to this marriage has been a rather character disturbed stepson that came as part of the package, who is likely to destroy our marriage. Other than that I think I have a pretty good way of dealing with all the usual stuff my wife does, when she is in that mode.Junkyard Dawgnoreply@blogger.com