Sometimes I feel guilty that I'm not able to update my blog here because of the utter lack of things going on, but at the same time, I'm completely relieved because that means my wife is not acting up or causing trouble so there's not much to discuss about her or my life.
For the past two months, I've done little else than work. My schedule has picked up at my job and I work from basically 9:00 in the morning until 11:00 at night four days out of the week, with only two partial work days and Sunday leaving me time to myself and time with my son. I've poured almost half of what my son needs for his college payments into his bank account, and at this rate I can finish it up in the next two or three years. After that, I only have to save up a basic nest egg to begin my travels abroad again because I plan on working wherever I live.
I haven't seen my wife's mother in many months (whether this was her or my wife's idea, I don't know, but it's certainly a weight off my back).
Finally, my sex life is back on track with no refusals in a year or two, but there have been close calls where my wife whined to be too tired. In those moments, I just picked her up and threw her on the other bed to get started and she didn't whine much longer. She hasn't started any fights with me either, but there was one moment where she copied my advice to married men about fighting with your wife: don't back down, and don't allow her to change the subject until she admits she's wrong. A few days ago, I said that she was starting to refuse sex again to tease her.
By the way, just to repeat, never show weakness or discuss issues in your marriage with your wife (or any woman, for that matter), like those charlatans and fools who claim this is the key to a healthy relationship with women. Girls and women take it as a sign of weakness and use it as an excuse to bully you more. Just make the change you want, and tell her to stuff it if she doesn't like it.
My wife took me seriously and said I was wrong. I talked about something else, then she said, "Tell me you're wrong." I thought it was hilarious that she was aping me so directly, but I kept my cool and gave her a BS response of "Mistakes were made." Then I laughed at her, and she went back to sleep. I easily woke her up for sex later, but if she had refused me then, I was very proud to feel that if she had done so, I would have brought back the Iceman where I ignore and condescend to her for a few months until she understands who the boss in this relationship is again. Sex is a deserved distraction to me, but if I need to put my wife down again for her bad behavior, I can go camel for as long as I need like I did in those many posts at the end of 2013.
But anyway, there's the lack of news update. I was happy to see that I only have 4247 days left on my counter until time is up, and it's time to live again. I haven't mentioned it before, but my plan after my son is off is to first travel America with my wife for a year seeing the natural beauty the land has to offer, then I'll pick two countries that I want to live in to go to. Once that's finished, I'll assign each as heads or tails, flip a coin, then commit myself to live there for the following year before repeating the coin process again. Maybe I'll make a Youtube video of me doing that as a farewell post to this blog, but that's over a decade into the future, so I probably shouldn't be getting ahead of myself. To live a life of freedom, up to chance, with only the basics of safety and sustenance planned for: that is my dream.
I'm glad you're still updating your blog.
ReplyDeleteI'm single and I thought my life was boring. But it's better than being married and boring. Having a boring life is harder to correct when you're married I think.
This blog has motivated me as a single man to have a non-boring life now. Being single is much better.
Thanks for the comment, and I'm glad I had some positive effect. I had a great time learning languages with mnemonics and traveling the world while I worked; maybe that could help you out of your boredom. Marriage makes things worse though, you're right about that.
DeleteKeep up the good work. You might be saving some naive guys out there from the trap of marriage. Kids are important but marriage creates some ridiculous limitations and stresses that can be avoided. Unfortunately, cultural and religious forces have brainwashed all of us into thinking marriage is important. One must develop themselves and their children. That is the key.
DeleteWow, big apologies for the month I didn't reply to this comment. I didn't even see it for some reason.
DeleteI'm completely with you. There are huge birth deficits all over the first world that need to be evened out to make sure we don't lose their unique cultures; I think it's better when there are many different people and places to see, live around and work in/with in this world.
But as long as the laws remain the way they are, the only way people will learn about the realities of marriage is if men walk away until things get better.
If they ever do.
Hey John, Its great that you are still writing. I loved reading your posts. They were very honest. I agreed with almost all of your points. We often dream of fairytales but your entries reminded me of reality. and I am glad that you have survived and found a way to live. I am a part-time teacher in India. I am 29 year old single man and have no plans for marriage. Hope I can fulfill my dreams of traveling the world and learning new things. Would love to hear more from you. If you have any youtube channel or a way to message you, please let me know. I will always be there to listen to you. :) Cheers!
ReplyDeleteSorry for the late reply, my mother and sister are here and it's hard to get time away.
DeleteTravel is an excellent life, no? Lots of new experiences and things to do every day, plus keeping all that money for yourself...
This is the only place to reach me, so I'll see you around the blog.
@John Public: Have you considered doing videos on your own youtube channel? I bet you could make some informative and enlightening videos. You can make videos and still keep your anonymity - Just look at how some of the other MGTOW youtubers are doing it (like Canadian MGTOW for one, there are many others).
ReplyDeleteSorry for the late reply. I think the greats like Ape, Bar, CS, Eagle and the rest are doing a great job, and I don't pay much attention to western news because their first world problems make me feel dumber every second I hear them, so I wouldn't have many videos to make. I hope I can provide enough service as a kind of married inside man here.
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